My husband and I always wanted a large family. We both knew what living in a large family looked like since both of us each grew up with seven brothers and sisters. Indeed, we felt it was our calling, God’s plan for us.
When some people see our whole family together, they usually are overwhelmed at the sight. They ask us questions about making meals, doing laundry, driving a car large enough, for eleven people. Many times, it seems to us that they think that we had nine kids all at once.
The truth is that we had one baby at a time. We adapted to our growing family one baby at a time. I learned how to deal with one more mouth to feed one baby at a time. I mastered the art of being a little league/field hockey/gymnastics/ballet/Irish dance/band/swim lesson/play practice/basketball mom, one aspiring athlete/dancer/musician/actor at a time. I got the hang of keeping up with the laundry…well, that one I never mastered. And Life became “bigger”, one baby at a time. I guess you can say, our home is brimming with life, quite literally. At times, it is quite challenging, in fact, downright hard but by God’s loving grace, our hearts have grown in peace, patience, and love, one baby at a time.
I know that God has a unique plan for each person. Sometimes people say to me that they wish they had more kids. I think God gives you the amount of kids that are perfect for you. Sometimes, I wonder what my life would be like without our children. That is something I will never know. I do know that I am definitely a better person because of each of them.
April 20, 2013 at 1:30 pm
I don’t know if I mentioned to you, our daughter is expecting #7 any day. She and her husband were “only” children. This is quite a surprise blessing for us. Thankfully, theirs have come one at a time, though they did scrunch three of them close together with an adoption, then an unexpected pregnancy.
How sweet your family made you a photo calendar. What a blessing a large family is. God’s grace is sufficient.
April 22, 2013 at 7:57 am
Congratulations to your daughter! God’s grace is definitely sufficient. Thank you Patti.
April 21, 2013 at 2:26 pm
I’m definitely a better person for each of my babies, too. They’re big babies now, but they’re still teaching me, day by day. What a nice blog you have!
April 22, 2013 at 7:55 am
Thank you Kathy. Thank you for visiting my blog!
April 21, 2013 at 9:20 pm
This is an awesome post!
April 22, 2013 at 7:56 am
You’re so sweet.
April 22, 2013 at 5:56 pm
Yup! I couldn’t agree more. One baby at a time, one day (or hour) at a time.
May 9, 2013 at 9:46 pm
Yes, one moment at a time.
April 22, 2013 at 11:22 pm
I admire your organizational skills and your stamina. Perhaps all that life in your house powers you enough to manage it all. Kudos to you however you do it.
April 22, 2013 at 11:45 pm
I think you hit it right on the head. I think I am energized by the fullness of life here. Thank you so much for your comment and for visiting my blog.
May 7, 2013 at 1:43 pm
lol @laundry. Whoever gets to master that? You inspire me!
May 8, 2013 at 11:05 pm
Hahaha! Thanks for the kind words.
October 11, 2013 at 6:01 pm
What a great point you make here – learning to adapt to just one more child at a time. I hadn’t thought of that before.
February 13, 2014 at 8:24 am
“peace, patience, and love” yes, I can imagine how much that has become a part of your life with such a dear family. It makes me think of how deep love is also connected to great challenge. Through patience and acceptance your heart grows more. This is my curiosity. Just not sure I’m brave enough. You definitely have the wisdom behind you. Again, inspiring. Thank you for leading me here. 🙂
February 13, 2014 at 8:38 am
The truth is no one is totally prepared to be a parent but you have all the gifts you need within you. We are hot-wired that way. That is how God made us. I do not know if you practice any faith, but reliance on God plays a huge part in helping me raise my kids.
Yes, becoming a mother can be a terrifying prospect, but I am sure you will come to a point in your life when it is clear if that is the path for you to take. If it is, then it will be the path that helps you grow in peace, patience, and love. If it is a different path then like you already stated – ” Through patience and acceptance your heart grows more.”
All the best to you.
February 13, 2014 at 8:49 am
Thank you Mar. Your words, even if we just connected, are like a warm blanket. I am reminded that all is good as it is and the answer will come when it will.